You Are Not Alone: Biblical Counsel for Women Struggling with Masturbation

Do you feel like you’re the only woman who struggles with masturbation?

Have you been told that masturbation is only “a man’s problem”?

Does freedom from masturbation feel impossible?

Do you feel the weight of shame? Telling you that nobody would understand if you opened up about your struggle to them?

You are not alone.

You Are Not Alone: Biblical Counsel for Women Struggling with Masturbation is a resource to help you in your struggle. You’ll explore God’s good design for sex, how masturbation is a distortion of that design, how the gospel applies to your sin and shame, and that change is possible.

This book is for women who are struggling, women who feel entangled and enslaved to their sin, women who want to stop but feel like they can’t, and women who want to know what God and His Word have to say about this topic. 

This book is also for those who want to know how to help, encourage, and come alongside women as they engage the process of transformational freedom found in Christ.

Table of Contents

Preface

Masturbation: Definitions and Prevalence Among Women

God’s Design for Sex

Masturbation: A Distortion of God’s Design for Sex

Guilt, Shame, and the Gospel

How to Change - Repentance

The Tempting Fuel

The Triggering Event

Masturbation

Moving Forward in Freedom

Appendix-Resources

About the author

Molly Bertles is a wife and mom of five who lives in Fort Wayne, Indiana. She has her Master’s in Biblical Counseling (MABC) from Faith Bible Seminary. She is involved in counseling and discipleship at her church, Discipleship Network, where her husband is a pastor. She is passionate about helping women find freedom from sin and understanding how the gospel applies to their lives. When she is not counseling or corralling kids, she likes to read, listen to podcasts, thrift, and hang out with friends.

Endorsements

• ”Molly meets women where they are with warmth, love, and a clear pathway for gospel change. This resource is grounded in a robust theology of sexuality and presents hope with clarity and compassion. I highly recommend this book.”

—Jacob Valk, Filmmaker, Executive Director of Into the Light Ministries

• ”Molly has written an excellent book on a problem that is rarely talked about. She lays out biblically sound and practical counsel on how to overcome this sin that leads to shame and guilt. I highly recommend this great resource!”

—Beverly Moore, ACBC Certified Counselor and co-author of In the Aftermath: Past the Pain of Childhood Sexual Abuse

• ”This book is exactly what I needed but couldn’t find in college. When I was actively trying to fight temptation on my own, finding resources for female masturbation and pornography was nigh on impossible, which made me feel even more isolated and ashamed with my struggle.”

—Former Counselee

• ”You Are Not Alone” helps daughters of God battle an increasingly prevalent secret sin with the power of the risen Christ.”

—Garrett Kell, Pastor, Del Ray Baptist Church, Author of Pure in Heart: Sexual Sin and the Promises of God